Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart. ~ Kahlil Gibran
Self-esteem is a core identity issue, essential to personal validation and our ability to experience joy.
Once achieved, it comes from the inside out. But it is assaulted or stunted from the outside in. A homeschooling mom with low self-esteem does not feel good about herself because she has absorbed negative messages about women from the culture and/or relationships.
The reign of youth, beauty and thinness in our society dooms every woman to eventual failure. Women’s magazines, starting with the teenage market, program them to focus all their efforts on their appearance.
Many girls learn, by age 12, to drop formerly enjoyable activities in favor of the beauty treadmill leading to nowhere. They become fanatical about diets. They munch, like rabbits, on leaves without salad dressing, jog in ice storms, and swear they love it! Ads abound for cosmetic surgery, enticing us to “repair” our aging bodies, as if the natural process of aging were an accident or a disease. Yet with all this effort, they still never feel like they are good enough.
In a women’s workshop a set of activities is designed to promote learning, discussion and feedback about a topic or event, you can achieve this with the traditional get together workshop, but online, all you need to do is logon to find other homeschooling mom’s views and suggestions about their life changing ways into a better self.
Get better everyday
Plan to do one thing that will help you improve physically, intellectually, emotionally, even spiritually. Making just one change for the better as a homeschooling mom will boost your attitude from the inside out. You can actually chose what you want to change in this category first. Things you do most are the ones you need to focus on. A simple task won’t take that long.
Little things add up
It’s amazing, really. The seemingly meaningless things you as a homeschooling mom do for yourself may not have immediate results, but after just a short period of time they’ll have you looking and feeling better. So add those bubbles to your bath, make sure you eat your vegetables, get enough sleep, think of doing something nice when you have nothing to do, and the results will be worth it.
Mirrors don’t lie
Catty acquaintances can. Well-meaning friends might out of kindness or fear of hurting the friendship, but if you’ve got spinach in your teeth, your mirror will point it out. These things can be bothersome when you thought you were in your best but end up like this, so keep in mind about how to look your best every time and enjoy its benefits. Remember, your homeschooling students are looking at your daily appearance – no pressure, right?
If you just can’t get rid of that cowlick in your hair, that pimple on your nose, or those extra three pounds from yesterday’s buffet, just throw some gel in you hair, conceal that pimple the best you can, and wear something that’s not too clingy.
To get that attitude going the right way, you need to appreciate your face and body for what it is. It may be unrealistic to tell you to love it, but you certainly shouldn’t hate it. You definitely need to value what life has thrown you. That’s easier said than done in this society of model adulation and unrealistic standards.
If you take a look at any success story and grasp the one element of similarity between them, you’ll notice that virtually every self-made, successful person has this one super-important object of success in their mind- a burning desire to succeed. What counts is your frame of mind. Age, location, ethnic origin, gender, or any other individuality have absolutely no part in your attitude to become what you desire.